When people tell you to love yourself, do you? In the past year and more accurately, in the past few months, we have heard comments about women and people who are different than ourselves and in spite of that people are telling us all the time that we are loved and that we are beautiful, but do we really believe it? What did you say to the last person who told you to love yourself because you’re amazing? I know that most of us probably just nodded our heads and said “thank-you” while looking down at the floor like we were ashamed to recognize that we are worth something and that people love us for whom we are.

We had an election where two sides with polar views felt ostracized by the other, through no fault of their own. One side felt betrayed by their country and the people whom they thought they could call friends, while the other felt as if they finally had a say in the direction our country should go in. Both sides said things that are hateful and mean and are not at all what we say we’re going to do in times of disunity. We say we’re going to love each other and be there for one another but how can we do that when we aren’t being kind to ourselves? How can we say that we’re going to protect others when we don’t protect ourselves? This may seem completely unrelated, but I think that’s the reason we need Thanksgiving.

Thanksgiving is and probably always will be my favorite holiday Why? My family is extremely close and because my mom’s side is the side I have a relationship with, I don’t have to pick and choose which side is my favorite – they automatically win. Some may say that Thanksgiving as a holiday sucks and while I agree, I don’t think it sucks as an idea. When I think of Thanksgiving, I think of family and friends coming together to eat everything until they feel kind of bad about the fact they had four servings of dressing. The people who can watch you pig out over a period of multiple days without judgement are honestly the people who are going to love you no matter what you do. Those people are the people who care about you more than you can think is humanly possible. No matter what people in the media or someone you thought accepted you for whom you are says, the people you celebrate Thanksgiving or “Friendsgiving” with are the ones who will pick you up when you’re down. It’s important to love yourself, but sometimes, more often than we’d like to admit, we don’t but that’s okay. There are people in our lives who will pick up the slack until we feel like we can love ourselves as much as they love us.