If you’ve never watched an episode of Sex and the City, I’ll do my best to catch you up. The story follows four, independent women in New York. The series chronicles a their adventures, struggles, milestones and heartbreaks, and each episode is narrated by protagonist Carrie Bradshaw.
Carrie is a sex and relationship columnist, and she tackles her experiences in her column. However, in almost every episode, she is asking herself more questions than she is providing answers.
As a lifelong fan of the show and its lessons, Carrie’s career and style has had a vast impact on my overall persona. So much so, in fact, that I, too, want to pursue a career in sex and relationship writing. However, I do want to clarify that I believe I’m more of a Samantha than a Carrie (my career interests, and taste for Cosmopolitans, just seem to align more closely with the latter character).
Before I go off on a tangent about the subtle characteristics that differentiate the women from one another or possibly include a quiz that will finally answer the age-old question: “Which Sex and the City character are You,” let me start to unpack Carrie’s persistent question asking.
At first glance, Carrie’s “I couldn’t help but wonder. . .”‘s give off the impression that she doesn’t really know what it is she’s tackling. However, each episode works to provide the answer through the storyline. As a result, it is mostly up to the viewer to answer Carrie’s questions – which, again, seems like she doesn’t quite know what she is tackling.
After rewatching the series for the third or fourth time, I came to realize that perhaps the lack of clarity provides more answers than Carrie’s conclusions could. Of course, I am supremely interested in reading one of her New York Star columns in its entirety just to see how riddled it is with questions; however, when it comes to the show’s narration, I think it is fitting.
The show works to cover all of the problems single adults face when it comes to budding relationships, sexual explorations and enduring friendships. Its topics are extensive, and, regardless of the show’s occasional problematic episodes, Sex and the City ventures sparks conversations that previous shows did not.
As a writer, I appreciate Carrie’s persistent prompts, I love that the show urges me to answer her questions and I admire how that pattern has bled into my own writing. After all, as a young adult navigating some of the same situations, I am more often than not faced with many more questions than I find answers.
Questions are a natural part of human existence, and I strongly believe that shaping those questions can be more powerful than answering them. On GrrlPunch, especially, I am not an expert, in fact, I am quite the opposite. This magazine is an open-to-the-public diary in which I contemplate the situations I face and attempt to make them relatable.
Much like Carrie, I am left with a lot of questions when I start writing about my feelings and experiences. That’s the thing about uncertainty and navigating the unknown that is adulthood, you never feel like the answers are within reach. But I couldn’t help but wonder, perhaps these questions are getting me a step closer to finding my own truth.